Another consideration regarding apologies is; accepting apologies graciously. This is not always easy, even for “grown-ups”. However, acquiring this skill is important and can bring such peace into our lives. How do we do it? We start by saying, “Thank you for your apology. I’m OK. You didn’t mean to bump into me.” And then, MOVE ON. That’s really the key; moving on. Moving on means, letting it go. You haven’t “let it go” if your still sulking, pouting, angry or if you continue to bring it up over time. Either you accept the apology or you don’t. If our goal is to make those around us more comfortable and feel more valued, then it is only reasonable to “see” why accepting apologies are polite. We don’t want to make others feel bad for their mistakes (unless you’re trying to punish them by making them feel bad, which is another topic all together). Be sincere with your apologies and be gracious when you accept other’s apologies. Now it’s time to role play with your kids. This is so fun. Have your children come up with different situations, like building a tower of blocks and another child knocks it over or one child takes the other child’s seat. Let them practice apologizing and accepting the apologies. You will laugh and they will learn. Practice makes perfect.
Have a great day,
CEO/The Etiquette Factory